I need help! 🙁
I wonder if you can help me? Maybe I just
Feeling fed up and looking for inspiration
need some words of encouragement?
The thing is, I have lost my ‘Mojo”
I am fedup!
The truth is that I have been feeling this way for some time now.. probably for at least six months and if I am honest it is really for over a year. I then find some way of keeping busy, looking for a new interest, a course, a coach or some way of distracting me from my thinking.
My biggest problem here is that I am the one people come to for help, I am the one who is always positive!!!
So what can I do? I have tried talking to myself and I have done some journalling, meditation, self hypnosis, given myself a good talking to!… but… still feeling this uncomfortable feeling inside.
i have attempted to change the feeling, change the colour, move it into the distance, ask it what it wants?,
but no joy… still feeling flat 🙁
And why? I have a great life, my kids are happy, I love my hubby, we live in a great part of the world, the sun is shining, I keep fit.
I have lots of energy for exercise! I love to walk in the sunshine, feel the sun on my body, walk the dogs, I love my little poodles.
Symptoms… I guess I get lonely at times.. I miss my family, I miss being Grandma, ok I am grandma but I miss seeing my grandson every day. I miss my mum! I know that is crazy as she died 20 years ago, but I still miss being able to ring her up, have coffee with her, go shopping and just talk to her. I would be talking to her now if I could, she would sort me out, lift my mood I am sure of that!
Funny thing is that I am talking to her right now, through writing my thoughts here, I know she is listening but it’s not enough, i want to see her, to hear her, to smell the smoke from her cigarette, to hear her laugh, to listen to her voice…
Ok, thats enough. Time to be positive, (drums fingers on table), (sigh).. I should have had my newsletter out yesterday, will do it today, but where has my enthusiasm gone???
I feel guilty!!! guilty for not being motivated, feeling guilty for not being satisfied with my life.
I know what I would tell a client but it’s not working for me right now, so then I feel worse, so if its not working for me then why should I bother, why should it work for anyone else?
Now I feel scared, scared of publishing my thoughts as I might influence those of you who might be feeling down and were looking to me for inspiration!
But I am human, I have my ups and downs like everybody else. Most of the time i have the ability to recognise a thought is just a thought and it is up to me to give energy to that thought.
Today I am wallowing in self pity, welcome to my pity party. Tomorrow might be better, in fact, I might just feel better after I have written my newsletter. Cleaned the patio floor, done a pile of ironing and walked the dogs.
What helps you to feel better when you have moments of feeling low?
I really would appreciate hearing your comments.
If there is one thing that would put a smile on my face today, it would be that just one person read my blog here and responded in a positive way. To give me an idea, a suggestion that might help not just me, but anyone else who happens to read this blog who is feeling fed up!
I know how you feel. I think back to when i was happier and do more of what i did then x
Thank you Kevin 🙂
I think the main problem with me is that I would like to live in two places at the same time… 😉
Justine:
Dear Angie
Yes you can be human and you can feel down. I have been listening to a lovely lady who says feel the feeling for 90 seconds then feeling positive may feel forced however a feeling of having enough enjoying the wonderful feelings of your environment. thinking of you with love Justine
Tina:
Hi
It sounds to me like you need to Skype your daughter and Grandson. I know not the same as being there with them but it might help to see them and talk so you do not feel that you are not part of their everyday life.
Remember you are a wonderful person and not super human.
Ever fancy a coffee just text.
Let me know if you do feel better after seeing and talking to them via Skype. As for feeling like it for a while I am guessing that’s more unsettled due to wanting to be back home with them and not wanting to leave the life you have made here.
Take care and remember you are a very special lady! Tina
Kate:
Thanks for the honesty in your blog today – I believe we can’t be up all the time or “on” all the time and feeling a little “flat” or lonely is part of our cycle of life. Especially if you’ve arrived home to the same routine and left your loved ones behind.
Maybe it’s time to do something different? Mix it up take the dogs out for a walk at a different time or go somewhere new for a walk? Find a different coffee place? Ask for a pizza at a jewelry store 🙂
Learn something new – like dancing or a language. These are the things that help me get out of my flat times and sometimes I just sit with it too.
Cheers
Katy
Gill:
Angela
To me you are a kind, generous, positive person. What you would say to me and therefore what I say to you is… Recognise the thought and the feeling, acknowledge it but do not chide or beat yourself up overit. This too shall pass and be as kind to yourself as you would to another. Take heart, your humanity helps you see, understand and help that of others.
Love Gill
Marie:
Well done Ange
I get frustrated with people in our industry who always appear to be on the up and up, they look great and are bouncing off walls with energy..and I often think- ‘hey who are you kidding?’.
Its not real and anyone with half a brain will pick up on that after a while
I have often whinged on my blogs and fb about being over running, sick of it, tired etc, and some people have said in response- ‘Gee that sounds good coming from a coach, thats not very motivating’
But my thoughts are- this is the real world- the motivation is that I do get over it,I push through and keep going…I would hate the thought of people thinking its a breeze for me..when its not, at times its hard and sometimes bloody hard- and I want people to know the truth- pushing through really inspires me..and I hope that rubs off on others.
I see so many trainers that I call the ‘Yahhhyyyy Brigade’, everything is up beat and wonderful and to tell you the truth they bore me as I know that is not the way life really is.
You have pushed through so much in your life- you have hit brick walls, got knocked down, but then got up and climbed over them..and here you are!
Be down, have your whinge, get the shits- that is part of life- and the best bit is pushing through, inspiring others with your words and thoughts and getting on with it..never be afraid to express the real stuff- people do listen and take note.
Have a great day
Marie
Tash:
I know how you feel about wanting to be in two places, for me it’s three places. I miss Melbourne sooooo much, I come alive living there. But it’s cold and I love the sunshine and beach and steady predictable weather, and the third place is where family is, especially family for my kids. 🙁 my only solution I’ve decided is to become a multimillionaire, and own houses in all three places, so 1. I don’t have to work, 2. I can live where I want for as long as I want and when.
Dreams are free huh! But I live working towards that dream.
Maybe that’s what you need… A dream?
Silks:
I sometimes just go and buy a postcard, sit somewhere nice and write a postcard or a letter to a loved one overseas… Find other ways to feel that sense of connection… And yes, it can be tough and then I also I think of why I chose to be here and that it actually is a choice… And if I chose to I could go back and live there again… But hey it’s October, November soon and I know too well what Europe is like at this time of the year, brrrrr….. xoxo
Sarah:
Mum u are amazin n ur rite everyone has their down days but ur an amazin mum wife n grandma soon t be a grandma again
Annabelle:
I watch UK comedy sit coms to cheer me up 🙂
I understand and feel the same. .
Home is always where the heart is ♡
Kelly:
Hi Angela, love your honesty. It is difficult to put your feelings out there for anyone to read. For me, going for a walk in the yard & connecting with nature really helps. Especially seeing butterflies & dragonflys or other creatures, they make me smile :).
I totally understand how you feel about your Mum. Mine is my best friend. She is 68 soon and I will miss her when she passes. Her Mum is still going at around 95, so hopefully I’all have the pleasure of her company for a while.
I also find my reiki and meditation helps to alter my mood. I mainly practice guided meditation. Also, being around positive people helps.
Julie:
Can relate to how you feel, you can have it all and still feel
Lonely. I miss my late parents, I miss 2 of my children who are far away.
Talking to your friends will lift your mood and even to yourself.
Everyday is a day nearer to seeing your children again!
Lift your mood and
Come to the movies with expats tomorrow night!
X Julie
Loubie:
Hi I’m loubie, my mum norma is with your brother Joe 🙂 i know how your feeling. I have systemic lupus, raynauds phenomenon, arthritis, joint hypermobility and Hughes syndrome. Get pretty much constant pain and spend my days usually too poorly to move from the couch. I used to be active and go out with friends but the last 2 years my life went on hold when the lupus decided to kick me down. I try so hard to smile but i have days when the pain is unbearable, the morphine isn’t working, i cant sleep even though my brain is exhausted and food wont stay down and i just sit in self pity wondering why me? Why at 22 can i not run around the park with my son and husband? Why cant i get in the bath without help? Why cant i put on make-up? Why do i have a butterfly rash on my face that even if i did wear makeup it would still show through? Most of all why on earth am i taking 30+ tablets a day when i still feel this bad? On those days (today being one of them) i go with it and allow myself to be angry and upset, like you say were human. With all the crap i go through daily in proud i only wobble now and then. Usually when I’m flaring bad and having to use my walking stick with everyone staring at the young girl with a stick, probably thinking in faking it or wondering why the hell i need it. So don’t be too hard on yourself, being strong all also means accepting you can be weak and over coming it, ending up stronger than before
love Loubie
Lisa:
Thank you Angela for showing you are human like the rest of us 🙂 My advice would be to stop fighting it & pretending to be ok. Truly allow yourself to wallow…but properly wallow…no keeping busy, exercising, coaching, feeling guilty! Give yourself permission to feel the feelings as you know deep down it won’t last forever. “This too shall pass” but not if you resist it. Your mind will soon get tired of laying around feeling like crap….blessings to you for your amazing presence in this world x
At last,
I have realised why I was getting e-mails and not getting the posts on here. I had added a different comments form.
So I have transferred the lovely messages so everyone can benefit from your heart felt responses.
I love you all, thank you!
Ange xxxxxx
Angie, bless you. It’s really strange but I was only thinking the other day after I had a very negative experience and as I always do in those circumstances, I turn to your advice. I remember the words of encouragement you have given me and work through those negatives until I can iturn them into positives. You have helped me achieve just that, taught me how to do it and for that I will be forever grateful. BUT the other day I paused and though “who helps people like yourself when tgey feel negative? Do people in your profession actually ever feel negative? You have all the tools to fix being negative after all! Angie, your blog to me proves you are only human and although your job is to be positive, it simply cannot be possible ALL of the time. You are still an inspiration to me and I speak for probably thousands of others. Your honesty has shown your strength and for that I am thankful. I hope everyone who has replied has uplifted you and you start to fibd the mojo again real soon! Thank you for your continued support, I hope my support has helped. Much love to you. xx
Awwww.. thank you Lynne. 🙂
The replies are awesome and do help. I am feeling much better and your words also help me.
I am lucky in that I do have colleagues that I can turn to for advice and treatment when needed.
This time I felt it was important to show others that it is ok to not always feel good. Life is a challenge, full of ups, downs and lots of in-betweens!
xxxxxxxxxxxxx
I can help you Ange :o) , can’t I ?
Hey Bob,
Yes… thinking a parts integration might be an idea! 😉
Ange x