I don’t know about you but in some way, I feel like life is on hold and I’m still in March 2020.
However, even though this year has changed many of our plans, it goes to show that life really does happen whilst we are buy making other plans, and we are approaching the end of 2020 and heading into a new year. A time when we traditionally set new goals for the year ahead, so hear is a reminder in case you forgot or didn’t realise the truth about goals.
Goals are a useful tool, but achieving a goal has no guarantee to make you feel good. This misunderstanding causes stress and anxiety.
How We Create Reality
As human beings, we are like ‘meaning machines’, we look for reasons all the time, none of these meanings are true, they are all just ideas, some are useful, some not so useful.
To add meaning to anything, whether it is the purpose of a goal or the meaning of numbers we have to be doing something on the inside, that something is ‘thinking’, and goals, like any thought has no power at all.
The power isn’t in the goal. Having a goal can be described as a useful tool, like the blender I use to make smoothies is a useful tool, a blender wouldn’t be so useful to fry bacon.
Many people set new year goals or resolutions to lose weight and get fit. Most of these resolutions are forgotten by March and all that has been accomplished is a sense of failure. The reason being that people are hoping the goal is going to make them feel good and happy and this never happens, because true happiness is an inside job.
Have you ever achieved a goal and felt a bit lost? disillusioned?
I love to run and have completed three full marathons as well as a number of other running events. I enjoyed the whole journey of training with my buddies and although I had a goal of 4.30 hrs to finish the marathon (and did achieve this goal on my third marathon), I honestly didn’t mind whether I achieved this goal.
The goal gave me a direction, an aim on the journey.
Goals are a useful tool in business, and in many everyday situations we set goals without really calling them goals, I had a goal this morning to take the poodles for a walk and drink coffee. I didn’t have any conscious awareness of this being a goal until right now as I write this post.
So what’s the true purpose of a goal?
The only purpose of a goal is direction.
The power from any tool comes from how you use it.
The goal helps to focus attention, inspire us to take action and gain clarity.
But in reality, NONE of our good feeling comes from achieving any goal!
If you believe that your feeling is coming from anything other than thought in the moment, this is a toxic goal. There isn’t really such a thing as a toxic goal, but I heard one of my mentors Jamie Smart makeup the term and liked the idea.
Over generations many enlightened beings have talked about the inside out nature of life and how we see life how we are and not how it is. Pointing us in a different direction to the one we are used to searching in for our well-being.
When you see that you don’t have to earn your worth, you are free to create whatever you are inspired to create, without fear of failure.
When you realise that you can’t get it wrong. Nothing can hurt who you really are and nothing can help who you really are.
All you have to know is everything is created from thought.
‘We all live in our own thought created reality. If we don’t think something, it doesn’t enter OUR reality. It doesn’t matter if it’s “there” or not, the only reality we can see and experience is the reality we create via our own thinking’
– Sydney Banks
When you realise that you are the source of power, you tap into who you really are, the source of ideas and creativity, and if like me sometimes you have no idea what your goals are, or get confused about your vision, remember that all we have is now, this moment, reset, take a breath and then you can do, or not do something towards your goals for this year.
What goals are you aiming for this year?
What inspires you to take action?
I invite you to pick up a pen and paper and write down a whole page of things you would like to do and then take a moment to organise your top three goals and take a step towards them.
Just for fun, knowing your wellbeing is not attached to the outcome.
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